Can I vent?

[A-to-Z]

Ok so I just need to get this out....I'm so tired of work and school and all that competitive, corporate life!!!! I don't know how anyone works and goes to school full time!! I'm working close to full time and going to school! I'm so sick of it!!!!!!!!! I just want to be done....I want to be a mom. Not because I think it will be easier...I don't...I know it will be hard, but I WANT it. I don't want a career or to go to school....as a member of the church I know that one of the most important things that we can do on this earth is have a family and I'm ACHING to do that...but I feel like I have to finish school and work to save some money...but why? I'm so tired....

ok...sorry, I just wanted to vent...thanks :(

[Kelli West]

:oit is ok Amy. I feel that same way too. and now with my surgery and us not having insurance i feel like it is going to be forever before we have money saved, and life is sailing smooth again. But the Lord is mindful of us and our wants and needs. You seem like a great person, one who is trying hard! the time will come. :) Until then push forward in school and enjoy what life gives you right now. Just make sure you vent to us! It is the best way to do things, and let frustration out! hang in there!

[Kim Hansen]

Enjoy your journey--the kids will come:)

[caulensmom]

I second what kim says. If you focus on that one obstical in your life you will pass everything else by. :)

[Alishaw]

Amy, you know that everything has it's time and all the stuff you are doing now (filling time) will come back to pay off. Whether you need a marketable skill at some point, one of your children follows your school path and you can help them, some incredible opportunity arises because of your resume-you just never know. My first was FINALLY due on our 5th anniversary. I'd gone to school, gotten a real estate license, worked, worked and worked! I thought I was so old to just be starting my family, but wouldn't have it any other way. Make the most of your time and prepare yourself. If the Lord needs you to learn something first, get going on learning it!! ;)

[digimad]

Amy,
I didn't get married until I was 28 and working on my doctorate. There were plenty of times I wanted to be married and have kids during all those years of school, work, and being single. It is hard when all of your friends are married and having families. But now I am grateful I was able to do all of those things as a single person. You will never be as free to do things as you are right now. I have two kids and I am now divorced. If I hadn't gotten all that schooling I wouldn't be able to provide for my family the way I am now. I never would have thought I would be in this position, but you never know what is in store for you. Also, if you are married don't be afraid to start your family while you are in school. I had my babies while I was taking classes for my doctorate. It took me longer to graduate since I cut way back on my schedule after they were born, but I still finished and I have two great kids. Remember you don't have to have a perfect financial situation to have kids, the Lord provides in many ways. Hang in there. There is a time and season to all things.:)

[digiferfer]

I agree with digimad, you don't have to have the perfect financial situation to have kids. My first came when my husband was going to school full time and was only working a little bit and I wasn't working at all. We only made $5000 that year. I can't believe we lived on that, but we did because the Lord blessed us and my kid doesn't know the difference and was still happy and had everything he needed. It is hard to work but I know sticking with it all especially school it will all be worth it. Hang in there, just do what you think it right and you will be fine.

[LucyLu]

my kids are grown and gone... with kids of their own... but the times I remember best are the times when times were tough. Waffles for dinner that kind of stuff. We would eat under the table just to make things fun.

Keep in mind what was said at conference of the importance of getting your education while you wait for the Lord to bless you with little ones.

[montmeag]

I remember my mom going back to college when my younger sister started 1st grade. It was SO HARD for everyone. Mom often had to get up around 2 or 3am to get her homework done, partly because she was too tired when we got ours done, partly because then it was quiet. I remember saying that I wasn't going to college because I didn't want to do what Mom was doing. Well, I did go to college because she showed me the importance of an education. However, I did graduate before I got married. I don't know if that was because that's when DH came around or not. Of course we dated 1.5 years before we got married-different story. I think it was partly my determination (if only subconsciously) to get school done before I had kids. I'm really rambling here. Moral of the story, as hard as it is now, it would be much harder if you also had to worry about little ones running around, getting babysitters during class, etc. My philosophy in school was work hard to get it done as fast as possible. But I was only working part-time then. Anyway, work hard, trust in the Lord, and make sure you're ready for the blessings when they come your way. Make sure you have some fun thrown in there too!!!

[Quinn]

I once saw this comic depicting a harried woman at work imagining herself having a beautiful, peaceful day at home. The next frame showed a harried woman at home imagining herself in a clean, professional work atmosphere. The point of the comic was that the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.

I never wanted to be a mom. Sure I thought I'd fit in a kid somewhere in between a prestigious career (at one point I was set on becoming a surgeon), but the career was to be my primary focus. So, I get married & due to health problems had to stop my career path & then was led to have kids. Next year I'll have 3 under 3!

This is definitely not according to my plan, but I'm so grateful because it's so much better! If the Lord would have given me everything I thought I wanted, I think I would have felt empty & lonely for the majority of my life. The Lord knew best, especially regarding the timing of when kids would come into my life.

But, I have several friends that only wanted to be moms when they grew up. They couldn't wait to have kids. Yet, those blessings came later to them.

I'm just not certain that the Lord always gives us what we want when we want it. I think Paul had the key to happiness: "I have learned in whatsoever state I'm in to be content therewith." The battle of life is to learn to be content with whatever life's dishing us right now.

Sincerely, my heart aches for you! I can imagine how difficult this time is for you. It's much easier said than done to "be content." I certainly haven't gotten to that point yet. (I'm really questioning the Lord's motives at giving me another pregnancy right now.)

But, I do agree with the other girls in saying go live it up while you can! Maybe even write down a list of simple things you'd want to do before having kids & plug away at it. Sometimes the best baby remedy is forgetting about trying. And if you're really anxious, I know of an incredible herbal remedy that works wonders with fertility (no, it's not the reason behind all my pregnancies... those came without help).

And it always helps to vent to people who are sympathetic, so keep it coming!

Love you lots!

[A-to-Z]

You are all so great. Thank you for all of your support and advice. I am feeling much better, its just one of those things that gets hard sometimes but I have been so blessed and life is great...just busy and hard sometimes. But thats okay. I remembered something I heard someone say one time..."I can do hard things". Its so simple but so powerful!! "Hard" doesn't have to be a bad word in our vocabulary. I know there is a time and season for everything and I just need to be patient. I am learning so much right now and growing a lot and meeting some great people, its a great opportunity. I just wanted to say thanks to all of you...you are an inspiration to me. Thank you!